Ask Bish Pre Cum and Masturbation

 

HI Bish

I really need your help I’m not really in good condition because of the nervousness from my problem.

Before I fingered my girlfriend I might had some precum on my fingers because I adjusted my penis I didn’t know if it got in her when i fingered her It might had dried off but it was just a small amount

I only rubbed and touched the clitoris part of her vagina because she’s still a virgin could she get pregnant from this?

Please reply

Hi, thanks for your question.

It’s extremely unlikely that she can be pregnant from this. I’ll try and explain why.

1. Precum should be renamed ‘pre-ejaculatory fluid’ I think, because it doesn’t usually have many (or any) sperm in it. I’ve explained more about it here

“Pre-cum is fluid which comes from the bottom of the urethra at the base of the penis (Cowper’s gland) before ejaculation. This is to make sure that the tube is clean and ready for the semen to be ejaculated out of. This fluid can appear at the top of the penis when it is hard.

If a guy has not urinated since his last ejaculation then some sperm could be present in pre-cum, and it is technically possible for this sperm to make his partner pregnant: although this is very unlikely.”

So, there was probably no sperm on your fingers in the first place.

2. Even if sperm was on your fingers from your pre-ejaculatory fluid it wouldn’t be in the best shape to start a pregnancy. Sperm needs semen to help keep it alive and swimming – this fluid is not semen. Also once in the open air sperm start to die pretty quickly.

3. Thirdly you say you were touching the clitoris, I’m assuming that your fingers were on the outside of her vulva? This means your fingers were probably not close enough to the vaginal opening for any sperm on your fingers to get inside her. For more about the vulva go here

4. If you and your girlfriend wanted to get pregnant you would be advised to have lots of penis in vagina sex (with you ejaculating inside her vagina) over the course of a year. Even if you did this there would be no guarantee that she would be pregnant. If you had ejaculated inside her vagina, instead of fingering her clitoris, the odds are against a pregnancy starting. Not that I’m saying you should do that. For more about how fertility works, the menstrual cycle and why you can’t predict ovulation go here.

So try not to worry.

Hope this helps

Justin (Bish)


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    Jericho

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    Thank you so much bish 🙂
    This really made me feel better 🙂

    btw she’s already experiencing some light cramps on her abdomen and white discharge is coming out could it be ovulation? It’s still 10 days before her period?

    Many thanks 🙂

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    Jericho

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    Thank you bish 🙂
    Well from the looks of things she isn’t pregant 🙂
    She’s is now experiencing cleaer discharges or white and has been feeling abdominal cramps she might be near her period 😀

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    Bri

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    Hi I have a question. My bf wiped precum off of his hand, he wiped it on his pants, waited a couple minutes, and then began fingering me. Im pretty sure his finger was dry, and he said that he was completely dry, but do I run any risk of becoming pregnant from this situation? I’m a virgin and every person I talk to says this scenario is impossible, but I’m a worry wart lol. Anyways last month my period came on the 27th, and now here I am on the 1st with no period. This happened on the 28th though, so I shouldn’t have been ovulating. I’m just worried as to why I am late and if this could cause pregnancy because the precum would have had semen in it cause he had just ejaculated without peeing. Anyways thanks do much!

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        Bri

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        I feel like if I would become pregnant from this it would be much easier for women to become pregnant! Lol I did have surgery at the end of my last cycle and took pain pills for about a week after, so I’m hoping that just through everything off pace lol. But I’m somewhat much more relieved now that I’ve gotten someone who is educated like you to help me. Lol thank you and I’ll report back soon hopefully!

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    Bri

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    I know in super annoying lol but you really think that I’ll get my period?

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      bishtraining

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      Hi Bri
      Like I said, I’d be very surprised indeed if you were pregnant from what you describe. You should also know that stress can also delay periods.
      Justin

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        Bri

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        Should I stop worrying? Lol because it’s driving me crazy.

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          bishtraining

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          It’s hard to stop worrying, so don’t fight it. Acknowledge the worry, say hello to it and wait for it to leave you. Worries and feelings can’t hurt you so long as you don’t think or act on them – they are just stories in your head. This approach is called Mindfulness – look it up. 🙂

          Justin

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        Bri

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        Should I take a pregnancy test if I don’t get my period by next Sunday since that will be two weeks after I would have done this? My period was already four days late when I did this though.. so I suppose I may just be worrying for nothing. Lol I’m sorry I keep asking so many questions, and thank you for being so nice and responding lol.

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    Bri

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    And also have you ever heard of anyone becoming pregnant from this?

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    Jericho

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    BIsh!

    sorry for the late reply
    Thank you for helping me with my problem

    She just got her period a week ago and she wasn’t pregnant from this thanks 🙂

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      bishtraining

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      Great news! 🙂

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    Jatcoz

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    Hi Bish….

    I fingered my girlfriend on 16 of November and she said she just ovulated after 2 or 3 hours. I think there will be some pre cum or dry pre cum on my hand even i wipe out with my skin….(may be or may be not, i am not sure). before that day, i masturbated on 15th night, but i did urinated in the morning. And I am not also sure that did i go deep or not since this is our first time and she’s still a virgin. Help, I am freaking out now and your reply will be much appreciated.

    Thanks

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      bishtraining

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      Hi

      I get asked these questions a lot. I’d be gobsmacked if she was pregnant. There is not going to be any sperm on your fingers able to impregnate anyone.

      Is this something she’s worried about? Have you talked about this? Perhaps read some of the sex ed on here (or at Scarleteen) together. If you learn about this together then it might help you to be a bit calmer about it.

      I hope that you are freaking out a bit less now that I’ve replied saying that I don’t think you have anything to worry about. You might still feel tense and anxious about this. Just know that it’s a feeling that you don’t have to believe in or do anything about.

      Justin (Bish)

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    Alexis

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    Hi I have a question. Me and my boyfriend were in his hot tub and I gave him a handjob, he told me that he came. We then got out, got dressed and chilled in his basement to where I gave him another handjob but he only had precum. He then touched my vagina no fingering just sort of everywhere around it. Is there a chance I can be pregnant? Please help I have anxiety and my period is irregular I haven’t gotten it in a year because of being on the pill then coming off it (along with some hormonal drugs to stop my period like 2 years ago) and I’m honestly freaking out. He told me he didn’t use the same hand and I saw him wipe it off and i’m worried there was still a bit on his hand, although it was pretty dry and he told me not to worry and that i’m not pregnant but i’m still not 100% sure. I looked online and I don’t know what the truth is, and I want the honest complete truth.

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    aaron

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    hey bish is it possible to become pregnant from precum if im in boxers and my girlfriends in tights and panties? also i rubbed her vagina through the panties is that at all possible leads to pregnacy

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    bishtraining

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    It’s extremely unlikely that you’re pregnant from the other guy. However I can’t say whether this is the case or not. If you are happy talking to them both about this and they are happy to do so, you could have a paternity test done. You may want to speak to your ante-natal health care provider and ask for their advice on this.

    Sorry I can’t be more help.

    Bish

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    fqowih

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    Hello bish ! I need ur help ! I am really stressed ! i touched the clit of my girl (a liltle above, she has pubic hair), for like 1 sec, with my penis it had precum i think ( i think i pee before). It was in the day, she stopped bleeding from period, can she be pregnant? please answer! I am so stressed 🙁 Won’t do nothing till i am 30

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    steve

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    Hey Bish I fingered my girlfriend ,and she was giving me a handjob, then she stoped and i had a speck of pre cum on my index finger and then wiped it off dry on my pants and had my handout of the covers feeling it.be dry then i fingered her a couple minutes later but with my middle finger then pospossible 8-10 minutes later i tried three fingers and got only a little of my indexfinger in and then istopped d can she get pregnant and shes a virgin please contact me ASAP and i did it yesterday on the 15th and her period is on like the 23 im saying

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    steve

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    Hey Bish I fingered my girlfriend ,and she was giving me a handjob, then she stoped and i had a speck of pre cum on my index finger and then wiped it off dry on my pants and had my handout of the covers feeling it.be dry then i fingered her a couple minutes later but with my middle finger then pospossible 8-10 minutes later i tried three fingers and got only a little of my indexfinger in and then istopped d can she get pregnant and shes a virgin please contact me ASAP and i did it yesterday on the 15th and her period is on like the 23 im saying

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    Connor

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    Hey, bish.

    My girlfriend gave me a handjob, and I had a little bit of Precum on the top of my penis. I had peed twice between my last ejaculation and this encounter for sure. I wiped the Precum off of me, dryed my hand on my shirt for a second, then fingered her about two minutes later. Is there any risk of pregnancy at all with this? Thank you so much, connor.

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      Justin Hancock

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      There’s no risk of pregnancy here Connor. For more about this go here.

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    Connor

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    Thanks for that, Bish. Let me also say that she was about 9 days from her next period when this happened. Not sure if that makes things even better, or worse? Thanks, Connor.

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